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Insight from Moms | Vereece


Name: VereeceMy baby girl and I
Age: 27
Child Age: 8, 6 and 4 years old, and a 6 month old.

1. Are you staying at home because of someone else’s pressure?

No.

2. What was something about being a stay at home mom that surprised you?

I’m most surprised about how much liquid can come out of such little humans. Between snot, drool, spit up, vomit, wee and the dreaded leaking number 2 nappies, my stomach is a lot stronger than I thought!

3. What is the hardest part?

The most difficult part for me personally is having to be aware of everything around you 24/7. You have to be tuned into every movement and sound, even in your sleep at night. Never having a moment to switch off takes its toll, and when you do finally get a moment, out of habit you’re still not able to switch off.

4. What is your favourite part?

Being there for all of the milestones, being able to watch them learn and grow. (All the cuddles too)

5. What is the biggest thing you’ve learned about yourself?

That even at my absolute worst, I’m capable then much more then I expected.

6. Do you ever regret this decision? {Please explain your answer.}

No regrets, I love being a work from home mommy, but I do sometimes rethink my situation when we are taking financial strain.

7. Do you feel satisfied with this decision in general?

Yes.

8. How has your relationship with your partner changed, if at all, from this arrangement?

For us it was a question of trying to have him understand that I also needed “wind down” time in the evenings. We have good and bad days but as a whole we are on the same page. I wouldn’t say our relationship changed, per say, but rather that there was an adjustment period.

9. Do you sometimes feel resentment towards your working partner?

Not at all.

10. Do you have an equal say in financial decisions?

Absolutely.

11. Do you take care of all the household commitments or are they shared with your partner?

They are shared.

12. Do you think that only moms should be stay at home parents?

No, I think it depends on the family as well as the finances. If the dad wants to be home and the mommy has a thriving career, why not?

13. What are your views on men that demand their partners to stay at home?

The same as my views on men “controlling” women in general. This should be a decision taken by both parents and its one the mom had to be 100% happy with or there will be resentment.

14. What advice can you give other moms considering staying at home?

The bottom line is whether you decide to stay at home or pursue your career, you’re going to feel a certain amount of guilt. Should I be contributing more financially? Should I be spending more time with my children? Etc. etc… We can’t possibly do it all and in the end we all want what’s best for our children. So make an informed decision and remember your children are going to love you either way. It’s tough and amazing being a stay at home mom, same goes for a work from home mom, same goes for a working mom. Just do what works for you!

I am a mother of 4 (3 boys and one girl). I’m a work from home mom. My second born has Down Syndrome and this influenced my decision to work from home as well as the fact that I’m breastfeeding my 6 month old baby girl. My children and partner are my whole life and they are my number one priority.
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