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Insight from Moms | Tracey Leigh Steyn


 

Name: Tracey Leigh Steyn020Age: 29
Child Age: 8 years and 2 ½ years

1. Are you staying at home because of someone else’s pressure?

No

2. What was something about being a stay at home mom that surprised you?

How my second child has developed much faster being at home with me, than my first child did, being in a crèche.

3. What is the hardest part?

Trying to keep the family members lives organised, getting everyone to where they need to be on time, school, work etc. Deciding what to eat every night, keeping track of groceries. Keeping the house clean, and the washing and ironing on track.

To do all of this, we do lots of preparation the night before, we wake up very early as well. I also do a meal plan at the end of the month, for the coming month. This also helps that we do not buy unnecessary groceries (being on a tight budget and all). Oh, and I literally do most of my ironing in the dryer…..

HAHAHA

4. What is your favourite part?

Being there for all my youngest son’s milestones. Being able to drop and fetch my eldest from school, and be there to watch sport practices etc.

5. What is the biggest thing you’ve learned about yourself?

I have always been a fairly well organised person, but I am very proud of the way I have managed to put systems in place that keep our Family running smoothly.

6. Do you ever regret this decision? {Please explain your answer.}

NO. Not for one single minute. My husband has even told me that he can see that our children are flourishing with me at home. 🙂

7. Do you feel satisfied with this decision in general?

Yes

8. How has your relationship with your partner changed, if at all, from this arrangement?

At first I must admit, it was strained, as money was very tight, and we struggled. But we got through it, stronger, and happier. I feel we are happier now than we ever have been.

9. Do you sometimes feel resentment towards your working partner?

No

10. Do you have an equal say in financial decisions?

I do the budget and work with all the money.

11. Do you take care of all the household commitments or are they shared with your partner?

They are shared, my husband helps with cooking and with the kids.

12. Do you think that only moms should be stay at home parents?

No not at all. But in our family, my husband staying home would not work.

13. What are your views on men that demand their partners to stay at home?

I don’t feel that is right, the woman should be able to make that decision herself.

14. What advice can you give other moms considering staying at home?

Be prepared to make sacrifices. (Unless of course your husband is rolling in money :)) There are days that you want to scream and rip out your hair,but the good days outweigh the bad, and it is definitely worth it.

My eldest son Tristan was born in July 2008. I moved between jobs from then, until October 2013, when I gave up work to be a SAHM. My youngest son Julian was born in December 2013.

I have been doing Photography since 2006, and I do freelance Graphic Design.

I have a passion for Events (got my Event Planning certificate through Intec last year.)

I have also just certified as a Doula through Wombs, and sell Maternity clothing on the side. 🙂

I am yet to make a HUGE success out of at least one of my business ventures, but each of them do bring in little bits that help get us through.

 

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