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Insight from Moms | Charlene Walker


Name: Charlene Walker2013-07-07 11.57.41
Age: 30 years old
Child Age: 5 years old

1. Are you staying at home because of someone else’s pressure?

Yes and No – my husband started his own business 2 years ago whilst I worked full time. I also assisted him after work with his admin, the pressure of working full day and after work left no time for family, I also purchased an online store, which I would work on after hours, our family time suffered as a result and this led us to the decision for me to work from home full time to focus on growing his business as well as my own and focus on my son.

Although nobody pressurized me to stay at home – the constant pressure led me to this decision.

2. What was something about being a stay at home mom that surprised you?

You do not have as much time on your hands as you think! Working whilst being a stay at home mom is much harder as it becomes difficult to prioritize and you get side tracked easily!

3. What is the hardest part?

Having to say to my son – “Mommy has to finish this first”.

4. What is your favourite part?

Being able to see my son grow up, and listen to all the stories he shares – I think this is something valuable that I would have missed should he still be in daycare.

5. What is the biggest thing you’ve learned about yourself?

When you think you cannot carry on – you manage to collect yourself and go further – You can survive on 4 hours sleep!

6. Do you ever regret this decision? {Please explain your answer.}

No, I love being able to spend time with my son, and I love being able to work towards the things I love and show myself and others how creative I really am in running two businesses full time.

7. Do you feel satisfied with this decision in general?

Yes I do. I know that what I put in, is what I will get out. And that makes me content regardless of how chaotic my life can be!

8. How has your relationship with your partner changed, if at all, from this arrangement?

It has definitely been hard at times and put pressure on our relationship, because I am at home full time I push myself to also be a home maker regardless of the business pressure. My husband works outdoors everyday and is on the road 8 hours of the day, I therefore feel that I have to make sure everything at home is “sorted” to relieve pressure for him.

9. Do you sometimes feel resentment towards your working partner?

No, I don’t, I respect him for allowing and supporting me to live my dream of being able to spend more time with my son.

10. Do you have an equal say in financial decisions?

Yes, we have always had an equal say – my husband has always trusted me to do the finances, and this has remained the same.

11. Do you take care of all the household commitments or are they shared with your partner?

I take care of them – I have a helper that comes in once a week to assist with the major household commitments – but I insist on keeping a firm grip on it.

12. Do you think that only moms should be stay at home parents?

I do. Dads are the leaders – I feel that they should be treated as such. I also think that if the fathers are the bread winners they are naturally the stronger sex and will be the leader of the house.

13. What are your views on men that demand their partners to stay at home?

I feel that it should not be demanded. I honestly feel that it should be a mutual decision. If a mother wants to build a career she should be allowed an equal opportunity to do that, given this does not affect the well being of her children as I feel mothers are the main support emotionally for children growing up.

14. What advice can you give other moms considering staying at home?

Find something you like to do whilst you are at home, whether this will bring you an income or not, something to have as your own and not get lost as a mommy and wife, but still be the true person that you are. Be sure to keep your own identity and if it makes you miserable being a stay at home mom, rather not do it, your family deserves to have the best of you. Staying at home and being there for your children in my opinion is the best gift – if you can do it, consider it!

I am a mother of 1 little boy. I run two full time businesses from home whilst spending time with my little boy. I have been married for 7 years. I grew up in a family of 4 children and I have always put family first no matter what.
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